We all have parts of ourselves that we keep hidden away. Some of these aspects are relatively harmless, like the quirky hobbies we enjoy, or the TV shows we watch when no one is around. But we may also harbor deeper secrets that we feel unable to share with anyone. These are the secrets of hidden pain. If this resonates, then you know exactly what I’m referring to.
When pain is hidden away it can result in a variety of side effects such as feelings of guilt, shame, or fear. The pain we hide may be the result of traumatizing events, not being taken seriously by a medical professional, wishing we had a made a different decision, or simply deep-seated insecurities. Whatever the cause, hidden pain has a way of lingering with us, even when we try to convince others and ourselves that we're okay. However, while we may perceive hiding our pain as the best option, the consequences of doing so can be far-reaching.
One of the most troubling aspects of hidden pain is its affect on our relationships, especially the one we have with ourselves. By hiding our pain, we create a separation within ourselves and between ourselves and the people who care about us the most. Our fear of judgment or rejection may prevent us from being truly present with loved ones, making it difficult to form genuine connections. Even when we try to build relationships, the weight of our hidden pain can leave us feeling isolated and disengaged.
While it is reasonable to keep information private in certain circumstances, hidden pain can be detrimental to our wellbeing. Addressing these issues can be uncomfortable but ignoring them can lead to even more damage. When seeking help, some may choose to confide in a family member or a friend, while others may prefer the assistance of a qualified therapist, mental health practitioner, or life coach. However you choose to move forward, the ultimate goal is to find a way to overcome hidden pain and begin to heal the emotions that may have been concealed with it.
In conclusion, hidden pain can be a heavy burden, but it is crucial to process it and begin the healing process. Whether you speak with a friend, loved one, or seek professional help, it is necessary to find a way to release the weight of it. By confronting our pain and taking steps towards overcoming it, we can work towards a life of freedom and peace.
I want to thank my certifying coach, Brooke Castillo, for bringing this idea to my attention via her podcast and inspiring me to approach the subject from my own perspective and experience.